As a child of divorced working parents I grew up on the South Shore of Long Island feeling unsafe, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, and lonely most of the time. I was afraid of everything and often filled with a terrible feeling of dread. I slept with stuffed animals, especially my Snoopy. I was sensitive and empathic, but nobody explained that to me. I thought I would die of my emotions. I just wanted to feel normal and like I had a family.
Everyday life is filled with experiences that are troubling and upsetting to our nerves. Too much stress takes a toll on our Autonomic Nervous System and we lose our innate ability to calm down after something upsetting happens.
Our Autonomic Nervous system is made up of the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous Systems.
The Sympathetic Nervous System is our fight, flight, freeze, fear mode. The Parasympathetic Nervous System is our rest, repose, and repair mode, also known as healing and rejuvenation mode. Sometimes it's not easy to flow smoothly from fear mode into calm mode. Our nerves get stuck in fear and the fear and trauma repeats itself. Chronic pain, muscle tension, sickness, and stress is caused by an unbalanced, agitated nervous system. The solution is to receive healing to calm down and unwind out of fear and into rest and repair mode. The true feeling of heaven on earth can be experienced when your Parasympathetic Nervous System mode is turned on.
Nervous system shock and trauma takes on many forms that can make you feel very uncomfortable in your own skin. The stored history of your emotions in your sub-conscious can easily be triggered by daily life. Relaxing into healing mode so that your body can empty files of emotional data is key for feeling good.
Here is my glossary of terms that describes trauma triggers in your nerves and how they can make you feel.
Doomsday wiring: The irrational awful feeling that something bad is going to happen to you or to someone you love. The dreadful fear that you did something wrong, you're in trouble, and someone doesn’t like you.
Money trauma: The fear of money. Fear when you have it and fear when you’re broke. Fear of spending it and fear of money running out. Money trauma makes everyday shopping and bill paying difficult.
Hyper-vigilance: Never reaching a fully relaxed state of being. Parts of you always on guard. Feeling unprotected and unsafe, jumpy.
Sudden onset Eyore: The depressed dark cloudy feeling that can come out of nowhere, knocking the wind out of your sails, utterly depressing. Resembles Eyore from Winnie The Pooh.
Chronic Shock and Panic: A constant fear. A fear of everything. It’s possible to be so accustomed to chronic panic that you may not realize it’s there.
Insistent pain: Pain that persists insistently. A pain signal that loops back into itself so pain relief never happens.
Need Shock: A constant fear that there’s never enough of what you desperately need.
The Anaconda Effect: When your nervous system is so wound up in fight/flight/freeze activation that you feel trapped, stuck and paralyzed in life, unable to move into positive directions.
We have to set aside the time to lay down and repair ourselves as opposed to pushing past ourselves in go go mode. I find it's much easier to unwind and calm down when I feel supported by another person who can help me feel better.